| There are several similarities between dating and | | | | the interviewer know she had similar experiences. |
| interviewing. Observing two scenarios - Bob's blind | | | | Stories are the proof that you have "been there and |
| date and Judy's first interview demonstrates some | | | | done that." Stories reveal patterns. |
| behaviors in either situation that are positive and | | | | 6. Red lights blinking warning! |
| negative. Imagine Bob in the interviewer role in the blind | | | | Bob's date begins to talk about her ex-boyfriend in a |
| date situation and Jane as the candidate in the job | | | | negative way. |
| scenario. | | | | Jane left her last job because of her boss. She avoids |
| 1. Before the interview thinking | | | | saying anything negative. |
| Bob: "I really need someone in my life and I am willing | | | | On a date, or in an interview, it is best not to |
| to take anyone who is a warm body." | | | | bad-mouth former relationships. |
| Jane: "I really need a job - I'm so desperate, I'll take | | | | 7. Introduction to the "family" |
| anything." | | | | Bob is excited about introducing his date to friends and |
| "Desperation vibes" can be spotted at first site. | | | | family. |
| Avoided by staying focused on the experience and | | | | Jane is given a tour and introduced to potential peers. |
| not the result. | | | | The next level is to meet the other members - friends, |
| 2. The first impression - chemistry | | | | family, co-workers. Don't under-estimate the impact of |
| Bob feels the connection with his date - "She is | | | | "third party" feedback. |
| exactly what I have been looking for." | | | | 8. The competition |
| Jane gets a negative feeling from the interviewer - | | | | Bob continues observes his date and mentally |
| stiff and formal. | | | | compares her with others. |
| Chemistry is felt and an opinion is formed in the first | | | | Jane is told that there are five candidates for the job. |
| few minutes of a meeting, based on appearance, and | | | | She starts to panic, thinking that all the other |
| body language. | | | | candidates are probably more qualified than she is. |
| 3. Getting to know each other | | | | Faulty thinking about the competition is a mistake. You |
| Bob watches and listens intently to confirm his first | | | | are unique and should be able to convey your |
| opinion of his date. | | | | strengths and positive qualities. |
| Jane can feel the interview turning around as she | | | | 9. The call back - the waiting |
| answers the questions with specific examples of her | | | | Bob says he will phone about another date. |
| past successes. | | | | The interviewer tells Jane that the hiring decision will be |
| First impressions are not always the final ones. Both | | | | made next week. |
| processes are conversations to learn if there is a | | | | Waiting for a call is one of the most difficult parts of |
| match. | | | | either process. Trust in the process and let whatever |
| 4. Questions - similarities, differences, values, qualities | | | | is going to happen occur. |
| Bob has a million questions he wants to ask. "Do you | | | | 10. The offer/commitment |
| like music, dancing, movies? Italian food?" | | | | Bob calls for a second date and she accepts. Time will |
| Jane is asked if she has questions. She answers, "No, I | | | | tell whether that original spark will continue or fizzle. |
| think you've covered the basics." | | | | Jane waits two weeks for her call back. She is |
| You need information to decide whether to take this | | | | offered the position and accepts. |
| relationship to the next level. | | | | Not every date will end in a commitment or even a |
| 5. Past experiences stories | | | | second date. Not every interview will end in a job |
| Bob is learning about his date by the stories she is | | | | offer. Sometimes it just doesn't work - for whatever |
| telling about her past experiences. | | | | reason. Let go and move forward. |
| Jane gives specific examples of her past work, letting | | | | There will be other dates and other interviews. |